Bonus Ep 6: How to regulate your emotions between cultures

In episode 6 of So We’ve Been Told, we talk about guilt and how culture really informs and impacts the way we express, name, feel, and even talk about our emotions.

The most common story we got when I did a call out for that episode was on learned stoicism, suppressing emotions and generally not being taught how to express emotions. But even if emotional suppression is culturally contextual, We CAN unlearn it if we want.

But how do I do it, Sahaj?!

In this bonus episode, I give you a list of 18 culturally relevant emotion regulation techniques that are not just talk about it, name them, or share them with someone else. Instead, I want to help you find ways that feel authentic and accurate to yourself, your cultural identities, and your relationships. These can help you connect with your roots – if you want – and help you express and ground your emotions. This is biculturalism at its finest.

Other things we explore in this bonus episode:

• What does “emotional maturity” mean and are we using it wrong in the context of our immigrant parents?

• Two listener clips

• Shame and how that impacts us (and how it’s different for us in immigrant families)

Happy listening!

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